The House Is Crowded

Two years ago my wife and I took over the care of our 18 year old grandson who's mom died tragically over a year ago. Two years later and a lot of turmoil happening while he is growing-up, and maturing has contributed to a heap of frustration and difficult decisions about how to handle a 20 year old now. About six months ago I was able to get him a 10 hours a week part-time busboy job in a Mexican restaurant, which took away some of the stress of having him lay around and do absolutely nothing but watch TV, and carouse around with his friends in the neighborhood. A bit more history to broaden the picture. His real dad divorced our grandson's mom about 12 years ago, and has not provided any help whatsoever in helping to raise his son. He left the State and left his ex-wife to carry the load. This was not contested by the wife, and throughout those years we had some contact with him, and toward the end we spoke sporadically on the telephone, usually when he wanted some money. What we discovered two years ago was that our grandson had the maturity of a 13-14 year old. His high school was incomplete, but the fact that he had not even completed the ninth grade completely was a real shock. We guided him through getting his GED, and one small step in the right direction was achieved. But, there is a big, big, problem! He thinks that he is entitled to have us care for him, feed him, and let him roll along with us footing the bill, just because he feels we have plenty of money. Which we do, but he needs to learn how to take care of himself. No? Now here is why the is too crowded. On Thanksgiving week last year guess what happens? His long last dad calls us and tells that he is arriving on a bus in Atlanta, and could we drive up there and pick him up. We are happy and we are not happy, we are going to have to wait and see what happens. Wait we have, and father and son are attempting to get along. But, now we have two free-loaders eating and drinking (beer), smoking, and not contributing much. As of November we demanded that the grandson pay $100.00 a month rent, food, and everything else. My wife is at her wits end, and has decided that her son has to leave by February 1st, no ifs ands or buts. Happy New Year!